Mike's mother gave us back all the gifts we had given her throughout the years before she passed. When Mike's dad lived with a heart condition for 20 years, she would never tell us when he was experiencing setbacks and when Mike would ask why, she said you make your life day to day and you can't make up lost time on a deathbed. He and his father (retired air force) didn't get along when he turned 18 and went to college in 1969. He was not the military type and I think his dad resented that he wasn't. When we got married, they did repair some of the issues, but it took the energy to make that call. His dad was able to fly down here after we built the house and had the girls and he was impressed with what Mike had become and he told Mike that. Both were at peace. It boiled down to thinking you know what and who someone is without really knowing them for who they are, not what you wanted.
