@mayjay I posted this in the thread that brought me to this site earlier this morning.
“Complaining about a problem without a solution is whining” President T. Roosevelt
I had this quote in my classroom and locker rooms through my time.
I had a junior player come up to me in my 3rd as a coach and ask me why a freshman was getting more time at practice with the 1s. At first I tried to tell him that this other kid was a better player without saying that to him. Then I remember this quot, and I asked him if he knew why and what he could do to change that? I asked him to come up with a solution by the next day and let me know and we’d talk about it.
He wrote out a list of five solutions.
- Work harder in and out of practice.
- Become a better student if the game.
- Become a better teammate.
- Do what is needed to help the team.
- Get #14 kicked off the team. Sorry coach that’s just a joke.
That kid became an assistant for me 6 years later and replaced me as head coach after I retired. It was that note that made me want to work with this kid. He didn’t whine. He didn’t quit or make excuses. He tried. He learned and now he’s winning not just at basketball but teaching and life.