Finding out Reality can be really rough at times
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You know life can be very confusing/harsh at times , and you realize that there are times when your just not ready.
Here I am pretty much and enjoying life , enjoying my wife well she has been losing weight and has what they called severe COPD we have been dealing with this for a long time , she is on oxygen 24/7- - - like I also said she is dropping weight she was 170 pounds and she is now 80 pounds. just looks so frail. she sleeps probably 19 hours out of the day, I can just see her slipping away right in front of me.
Well had to get her to the hospital last Wednesday morning , needless to say not good. The Dr at least was straight up instead of sugar coating. We thought maybe with her losing so much weight in a short amount of time could be Cancer eating her up, They did a total body cat scan and thank God came back clean.
Yet he did tell her she had a lot of things that was not fixable. He told her that she was in what they call Severe COPD -- - END , which is exactly what it sounds like as to what that might mean.it means it's done can't get any worse & nothing they can do- - her lungs are totally shot. Just a matter of time which sucks all we can do is just wait.
She is at a point as to where she can't have any kind of surgery chances are is she will never male it off the table. So he talked to us and ask us what we wanted when things happen so it comes down to she will be a DNR.
He said if things start to go then if they try to do any CPR they would crush/break all ger ribs would not be pretty, you break those ribs then chances are they would puncture her lungs.Soooo they are also very concerned about her weight saying she can't lose any more weight cause if she loses more then you have got where her organs will shut sown. The whole thing my friends is just a lose , lose situation , we have brought in Midland home health they doing Occup Theraphy , Physical Therapy and Hospice will be coming in soon.
I guess just needing to get this off my chest it's a lot to take in - - feeling so helpless knowing nothing we can do. Also makes me realize how simple the game of Basketball really is comparred to fighting for life , Life can be so rough at times makes reality sit in.
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@ROCKCHALK2025 Really sorry to hear this. Please hang in there, stay with us and keep us posted.
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I’m so sorry to hear that man. I hope you take care of yourself and find peace with her.
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I'm so sorry about what you're going through. Stay strong
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@approxinfinity thanks my friend , just sucks only 58 years old and isn't right as I'm suppose to go before her. They just ended up sending her home as really nothing they can do , when the time comes all we can do is watch her go. they are saying could be anywhere from two to six months BUT might be able to go some longer, they listened to her lungs and they just said they were just shot hardly ANY ACTIVITY , THANKS AGAIN BUDDY
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@farmerjayhawk Thanks for thinking of me bud-- just hard , sitting here in the house alone/empty. Everywhere I look there she is/isn't person doesn't realize how much you can love someone and then BAM GONE hits pretty hard kinda sucks
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@Jayhawk_69 Thank you. you know people say you better prepare yourself but you can never really prepare yourself for something like this you may think your ready but when it hits it just like a swift kick to the ya.-- thank you again
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Navigating the weight of illness, particularly in advanced stages, is one of the greatest pains in this world. I deal with it every day in my job and it never gets any easier—my heart goes out to your wife and loved ones. However, I will say this: it’s truly a privilege to be surrounded by your loved ones, who care so deeply, in your final days. I have no doubt that she feels the warmth of the love and compassion you provide to her. I’m wishing you the best.
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@ROCKCHALK2025 Hang in there, man. Just be there and do what you can do for her. That's all. Midland was great helping with my mother, so lean on those folks. So sorry.
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@ARbosshawk thank you so much, I told her one night she was suffering having a really hard time breathing and I said you know baby, this might sound cruel----cold but if our maker our Lion of Judah, our savior decides it's time then said I just as son he took you now so you wouldn't have to suffer anymore- -don't want to lose you but at least you would be free from all pain and be in pure bliss in our kingdom of heaven
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@DanR Thank you , ya they seem pretty nice they gonna work with her on trying to get stronger, It 's just rough tell you how bad it's gotten I can take my index finger and wrap around her arm and touch my thumb to her arm all the way up to her shoulder, her spine sticks out , her collar bone is real visible just sad breaks my heart
Thanks so much for your words buddy . appreciated.
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Praying for you, brother. God will give you grace to get through this.
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@ROCKCHALK2025 prayers are with you my friend, my uncle had the same thing with COPD and a few weeks after his 62 birthday he passed away. We all have a clock ticking that we can’t see, enjoy everyday you can with her buddy.
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@kjayhawks2.0 Thank you for that, not easy but like you say just cherish the time we do have, God has his plan
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I'm very sorry to hear of this with your wife. We are all here for you if you need a shoulder to lean on.
