Roll Call
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My mom fell again and fractured humerus x2, dislocated shoulder, fractured spine, broke 2 ribs and pelvis. Trying to coordinate hospice care for her to return home but this is near the end. Its ok. 84 mostly good years. Shes lost a lot of weight and her mind has left the station. My advice, hug your loved ones while youre healthy and enumerate the little ways in which you love them to them. It gets hard to do this later on.
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I'm so sorry for what you're all going through . Hang in there friend.
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My brother is a physical therapist at this hospital. He has helped me take a practical view of mortality. Life is about quality not quantity for me. Every moment has its own potential for greatness.
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@approxinfinity said in Roll Call:
My advice, hug your loved ones while youre healthy and enumerate the little ways in which you love them to them. It gets hard to do this later on.
Amen brother. You never know how long anyone has. Always let people know you care.
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Ah, so sorry @approxinfinity awful news.
Yep, sounds eerily familiar. Best to you and your family. not easy.
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@rockchalkjayhawk downsize downsize downsize! In the end i want the sum of my material belongings to be lighter than air, at least the ones no one else wants.
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@approxinfinity said in Roll Call:
@rockchalkjayhawk downsize downsize downsize! In the end i want the sum of my material belongings to be lighter than air, at least the ones no one else wants.
So funny you’d say that about downsizing! I’m in that mode now.
Sadly It all started after mom passed away. We started by donating a zillion boxes of her stuff to Goodwill. Then we decided to paint the inside of our house. You know how that turns into chaos with stuff everywhere in giant piles.
Time to downsize! We realized (or I did) that we had two massive bookshelves just collecting dust. GONE! The books and shelves. I read on a Kindle now anyway.
Anyway, a work in progress, but it’s a very good feeling to declutter, and to donate to those who need these things more than I do.
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Mike's mother gave us back all the gifts we had given her throughout the years before she passed. When Mike's dad lived with a heart condition for 20 years, she would never tell us when he was experiencing setbacks and when Mike would ask why, she said you make your life day to day and you can't make up lost time on a deathbed. He and his father (retired air force) didn't get along when he turned 18 and went to college in 1969. He was not the military type and I think his dad resented that he wasn't. When we got married, they did repair some of the issues, but it took the energy to make that call. His dad was able to fly down here after we built the house and had the girls and he was impressed with what Mike had become and he told Mike that. Both were at peace. It boiled down to thinking you know what and who someone is without really knowing them for who they are, not what you wanted.
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@rockchalkjayhawk I realized just how much crap I have after my brother passed away. Had to deal with all his stuff. A lot ended up at goodwill or the trash. There were some things that could be sold but that was a lot of work so the really cheap stuff got donated and much of the rest ended up at places that resell it. Obviously didn't get full value but the time and effort is worth more than the difference was to me. That did get me selling off some of my own stuff. Mainly giant book lots on eBay but I did pare back my DVDs and such a teensy bit.
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Good luck to everyone dealing with so many challenges. We are dealing with our own accumulated junk: We are getting ready to move and it has been chaotic trying to get the house ready to list on June 15th. Realtor's photographer coming next Saturday. Spent yesterday with her taking everything we love off the walls, evicting chairs and tables, and basically mutating the place into a vacuous HGTV showpiece. I understand it, but geez it is annoying!
Moving from our rainy coastal-SC cozy house to the deserts of the west, most likely Sun City in Las Vegas. The developers around here are putting up about 8,000 new homes within 5 miles or so, plus a new Buckees at the I-95 exit that already is backed up for half a mile every morning with workers going to Hilton Head. Gonna be a mess.... We would be a lot closer to the kids in Hawaii, and we have always dreamed of long trips through the west. Grand Canyon is my favorite spot on earth, and Her Loveliness has a lifelong desire to see the redwoods and other nat'l parks. In LV, maybe we will also get to see a yearly Chiefs game! And our sons will come for hockey.
Just have to avoid that seductive spinning wheel with all those numbers and we should be ok!
